ONE SHEET - SEXUAL WOMAN
ABOUT THE SONG
Sexual Woman is a song written and produced by Joy Frost. Joy shared on her social media, 'This song is for sad girls and for survivors. Despite the spicy title this song is dark and heavy. It is my wish that it will be cathartic to anyone who needs it. Goodness knows releasing it has been cathartic for me. I kept this song unreleased for years because I was so afraid to share it. I feel so much lighter now that it's out'. The song draws on her own journey healing from sexual assault and her religious upbringing. The song is also a critique of misogyny and the double standards and expectations placed on women's sexuality in society. The song was picked up for release through Instrumental/frtyfve records. The canvas on Spotify and the album art feature shots from JF's rebellious personal boudoir photoshoot.
On her instagram Joy shared a deeply personal caption. 'This is my story behind the song.. being sexually shamed has been a core theme of my life. Ever since I was first molested at age 6, even to now in my more recent ongoing sexual assault case. The way I was urged to not wear makeup or jewelry to trial and only wear modest clothing so I could increase my chances of being believed by a Utah jury really fucked with me. By the time my confidence was gone a government official on my legal team said to me that he couldn’t have cast a better victim. I know he was just trying to say he believed me and wanted to help me, but why did I have to be modest with a broken spirit to be a 'good victim'? I refuse to inhabit that broken energy EVER again. I deserve better than to be trapped in that. Despite it, in the courtroom they still tried to claim that I asked for it. Even outside of the trauma it was my core wound. I hit puberty early at 9 years old. The bullying was awful from both children and adults. All the kids spread rumors that I was taking breast enhancement drugs, meanwhile some adults would slut shame me to my face. A music judge even called me a little hussy at just 13 years old because I danced onstage and already needed a D cup. In Utah i was raised in the Mormon church and it seems like adults made it their business to control and sabotage my blossoming femininity. Adult male church leaders would sit me down alone in their offices and interrogate me, a virgin underage girl, about all my sexual experiences and attractions in great inappropriate detail, and some even punished me because I was bisexual. My dad would throw away every piece of clothing that was revealing and wouldn’t allow me to date. I‘ve been sexually harassed in person hundreds of times and have been stalked too. Once I left my laundry outside and someone actually broke into my backyard and stole my underwear. WTF. As an adult now I struggle with sexual dysfunction. That has been a huge source of my depression. Not to mention sexual harassment l receive online in comments and DM‘s… No more! I am done tolerating it. I am a beautiful woman and I will never be made to feel ashamed or afraid of that ever again. That’s what this song is about.'
The song has been playlist on Spotify by several large indie playlists and reached several thousand streams in the first weeks after its release. The song was placed in the video game Avakin Life as part of her virtual concert setlist, though kept backstage because of the explicit content. The users of the game collected limited edition virtually autographed vinyls with the album art as wearable merch inside the game.
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LYRICS
It's been stolen away
Everyone tries to dim my light
And now I'm just as afraid
Of finally shining
As I am of hiding
When I cover up my body it's because I hate myself
But if I ever show my body I objectify myself
There's a ghost inside my bedroom
It's been cursing all my love
It's a dark and lonely secret that nobody speaks of
This is supposed to feel good but it hurts
This is supposed to feel good but it hurts
How dare she think she can be
A sexual woman
How dare she think she can be
A sexual woman
I'm done repressing myself
As hard as they try to say it's a sin
I deserve to reclaim
All the control over my skin
But they're shaming every woman who puts it on display
But they still expect a woman to wear makeup every day
I am weak if I'm too soft
I'm a bitch if I'm too tough
Tear me down if I look pretty
Or not pretty enough
Shame on me
I wanna be
A sexual woman
Shame on me
I wanna be
A sexual woman
Finally I'm gonna be
A sexual woman
Finally I'm gonna be
A sexual woman
Finally I'm gonna be
A sexual woman
Finally I'm gonna be
A sexual woman